Holding hands, a warm hug, perhaps even a peck on the cheek totally sins against chastity. When she told a few of her friends that something had happened between them, he began circulating the story that she had seduced him and then regretted it. While I fully believe her narrative is true, its not unreasonable to also suppose that a college would have to do a kind of balancing act where legal authorities are absent. Hes not going to fall for that. so: it is either a case of the same writer pretending to be two writer. or CC issues pre-fabed letters that require only a signature- if that. Note: This subreddit is a support forum and not a debate group and will be moderated accordingly. Another day, while other students played some sort of game on campus, the young man approached her and began to insist that she slap him across the face. If we want to read that sort of thing, well buy cheap romance novels. So printing, rape is not tolerated or whatever they expected to be printed in the handbook sounds a little naive. Are women safe in Christendoms bubble? When the schools response is to prevent the rapist from living on campus for a semester, and a professor welcomes him into his home while smearing the student who was raped in class, without serious consequences, its fair to criticize the school. This is garbage, not because there isnt a problem at Christendom, but because your article contains obvious errors in judgment, is clearly slanted with the intent to make Christendom look bad, and doesnt address the actual problems that make these things happen. Not super romantic. I cant stop him, apparently, she recalled thinking. Dr. Timothy T. ODonnell This is America. Whose testimony is more consistent and believable? Protected: Podcast 23: Look at that s car go! When I tried to figure out what had happened, I would say, He had sex with me, but I didnt, she said. They have a right to speak about the crimes committed against them. If law enforcement is not protecting its students (or at least diligently investigating student claims of assault), Christendom should be making a great effort to effect change. They havent apologized for the harm caused by their negligence in failing to treat these matters as serious. Why would the accusers parents ever, ever, ever send their daughter back to the place where she was abused and seemingly unhappy, uncomfortable and failing classes? Another tangential point: I dont understand the outrage communicated by so many that the standards for women are so much higher than the one for men, and that a great amount of responsibility rests on our shoulders to keep men chaste. Anyway, campus police are a whole different bear. Most likely she was in a Trad house and that is why they considered it beneath them to discuss sex at all with their daughter and how to protect herself from seedy guys. I'd imagine that (patriarchal misognynists being patriarchal misogynists) the experience would've been a lot worse for those folks. Should rapists be burned at the stake without incontrovertible evidence? Our culture promotes chivalry and kindness towards everyone at Christendom. The last thing Christendom needs is a kangaroo court that believes everything that comes out of accusers mouths. Its getting harder and harder for them in todays society. He then began approaching and provoking her on campus. I felt him, she said. And Im grateful to the pastor there because my alcoholism had descended to frightening levels while I was there, and he ended up 12th-stepping me and making sure I had a copy of the AA meeting schedules in the area. Undergraduate students combine a liberal arts core-curriculum with eventual upper-level courses in their major field (or fields) of study. It would be difficult for Christendom to have a fuller Catholic identity. [45] This was the school's first 15s rugby National Championship title. I always find it interesting they always try to punish students for drinking off campus, if you come back to campus drunk, Smith said. I was working maintenance as a student between the times of these incidents. Im not sure I agree with this. It can, however, cost people their livelihoods and smear the reputation of people and universities. While this student should have somehow received better care, and more protection from this guy later, and while her story is heartrending, it should not be published in an article whose objective is obviously to smear the college and all the good for which it stands. The young man was charismatic, well-known, and well-liked on campus. My legs were tightly closed. Thank you for this perspective. Christendom College will continue to do everything it can to understand how to best respond to these very difficult and tragic situations. And yet, with your ability to judge her soul, you dont know why That is mysterious indeed. It is getting totally repetitive, but here goes: Out of curiosity, why did they choose to single out Christendom of all places? Location & Contact Address 134 Christendom Drive Front Royal, VA 22630 United States Contact Mr. Ben Marsh Associate Director of Admissions Email: ben.marsh@christendom.edu Phone: 500-227-7233 Update my info Larger Map Majors & Degrees Before I went to Christendom I was the head of my diocesan youth council, so to say I was active in my faith was an understatement. Casting aspersions on the Fishers is an ad hominem because they cant adequately address the issue in itself. And some of the friends that I made. In 2021[46] and 2022,[47] the men's rugby team also received the #1 national ranking from National Collegiate Rugby. I mainly left because they wouldnt give tenure to the head of the sacred music department because he refused to teach the history of contemporary Christian music. In retrospect, the College may not have served these victims as well as we could have, and for this hurt we are truly sorry for any additional pain that this may have caused. I've got complicated memories of the place. A family member of mine is a graduate and while at Christendom, knew a few students that went to the police about sexual assault. It is a call to be honest about their mistakes, so they can address them in a properly Christian manner. A handbook that has to be revised and reviewed by the colleges legal team I assume? You may not have read porn, but what you wrote is beyond appropriate. the Administration could and should have done better here. I feel so freaked out right now. states that have laws saying Dont rape people. The reality is men can say no, men can control their actions and they are humans with free will. The way I see it, and many may disagree with this, but the failure was not a moral failure, but an administerial one(if that).. Clearly the college doesnt think it is patently false. Civil authorities operate under much greater constraints. Since 1977, Christendom has been providing the best Catholic liberal arts education to prepare students to restore all things in Christ. No means no. College students are able to refrain the same as monks, office workers, single adults and most adults in public life. But it took me a second to realize what was happening. I also think men need to be educated, be kept accountable, and step up their game. And it is these serious issues which led the Fishers to dedicate a great deal of time and energy into researching and writing this article. Which is probably why you hide behind your anon screenname. At first she didnt want to allow that word, and grew defensive, blaming herself for the assault. Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window), Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window). Smiths grades continued to slide, and her mental and physical health suffered as students and even outsiders, people she didnt know, would approach her in the dining hall to talk about the ordeal. But this is all a rather side-issue of the #metoo movement more than a discussion of how Christendom is to blame. That whole place was dressed in golden robes lined with lead. It was a good conversation, to this day he is one of the only people I've spoken with in real life who I think truly understood the problem and its implications. Smith says the school claimed it takes a long time to implement changes in school policy. Christendom College admits students of any race, color, national and ethnic origin to all the rights, privileges, programs, and activities generally accorded or made available to students at the school. Im glad you ran this story, and I hope it will help schools be more accountable. Was there ever a police report filed? [12] Needing a major gift to launch the project, O'Donnell prayed with then-Executive Vice President Mark McShurley for help and, within 30 minutes of praying together, an anonymous donor called to pledge $250,000 to the Chapel fund. I am having trouble understanding how policies against public displays of affection and against men & women being in each others dorms contributes to rape. Bishop Finn of Kansas City was convicted for failing to report suspected child abuse because he HESITATED to report it. People are fallible and improvements can always be made but Im sorry, how would anyone miss that rape falls into the category of mortal sin .and yes Moral Theology is covered freshman year. Its commitment to providing its students with an integrated, rigorous core curriculum, combined with a vibrant Catholic atmosphere that permeates every aspect of the college experience, marks it as a distinctive and precious resource. Its not completely new to me, since Gasp! What I found was the opposite, the longer a person had been at Christendom the less likely they were to show Christian charity, or even a spirit of evangelization. Christendom College is a four-year coeducational Roman Catholic Liberal Arts College with undergraduate and graduate programs offered in locations in Front Royal and Alexandria, Virginia, Donegal, Ireland, and Rome, Italy. I didnt exactly lose my instinct of self-preservation, but I definitely let my guard down at the school and treated it like my home. Its bad because just by the quotes of things hes said, Im pretty sure hes exactly the kind of guy who would force himself on a woman. I cant relate myself, but I hope youre doing well now! Lol there was the one time I said I was suicidal youll go to hell he replied I dont care I responded your psychotic he said. Be a patron of the (f)arts! Smith says the school claimed it takes a long time to implement changes in school policy. 240: Challah round the world. It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national and ethnic origin in administration of its educational policies, admissions policies, scholarship and loan programs, and athletic and other school-administered programs. What in this story is inaccurate? I had my arms pushed together, my elbows to my hands pushed together in front of my chest, trying to keep myself covered. Neither of which am I suggesting. Former professor and Professor Emeritus William Raymond Luckey was arrested on June 25, 2021 on charges of solicitation of a minor younger than 16 years old and two counts of taking indecent liberties with a child. It is alleged that a professor offered an example about Adele in class in an effort to smear her, however multiple students have come forward to say that his example was being used many, many years before Adela even attended the university, so it couldnt have been about her. God bless you and keep you. President Ask any psychologist who works with seminarians how many enter the seminary struggling in a battle against pornography. Finally comfortable in my own skin, as long as I avoid the dreaded Catholic bubble. Its a campus so safe, that rapist actually have to convince their victims to leave in order to rape them. No is no is no. Yup, I sure did do it! Reading the few witnessed sentences we have from the perp, the man sounds like a TRUE sociopath. absent more data (im just going off of what Ive read here so far) how exactly is a school supposed to punish someone for a violent felony for which they have Z-E-R-O evidence for? And victims have the right to be taken seriously, to not be dismissed. Right to present a defense OR NOT. I mean, if men are more rational and authoritative and have more of the image of God in them, why would I be afraid to be alone with this superior being? http://mydailydiatribes.blogspot.com/2017/12/metoo.html?m=1. Feb 5, 2018 / 15:45 pm. Anyway, while on a work call I found a mattress and sheets in the back room surrounded by rose petals and candles. In addition, the article didnt clarify that the college has gotten rid of many of the policies and rules that are being blamed in this article for the assaults (e.g., the no-holding hands rule was jettisoned a while ago). unless you are a member of the clergy etc YOU ARE IN THE SECULAR WORLD. Inaccuracies did not have to do with Miss Smiths heartbreaking account. To find out more about Student Achievement at Christendom, click here. Omigosh. Is it supported by super-strength body language? It is also questionable whether colleges and universities are equipped to handle such investigations internally. The school apparently based its response on two facts: First, there was, in 2011, no clause in the student handbook prohibiting sexual assault. An article about how a college should have handled a horrible rape situation better should not be couched in the fact that the college has separate dorms. I like this new group and their message about this whole ordeal: http://cascoalition.org/. Another student instructed you to leave her alone but you continued. She sought psychological help from Dr. Patrick Divietri. Good. I wasn't really prepared for the amount of raw heresy I was surrounded with. Protected: Podcast 42: Jarods Prancing Musical Show! We should demand it be better. The student handbook now includes a sexual assault policy. And on the outside, this torture of wanting to stay chaste yet wanting to see that a man loves you and wanting to fully embrace him comes across in very vague and misleading body language. Catholic or nonCatholic, If one interprets this as a endorsement of rape, the fault is on them. You described an inability or unwillingness to use your words to say, this is hard, but Im saying no! Read More. That wasnt their gig. That being noted, it would actually makes MORE sense, and would seem MORE effective, to refuse students the option of leaving, than to allow them make out spots. Eh, Simcha? There is no thrill in rape. [27], On January 16, 2018, Catholic blogger Simcha Fisher broke the story of three rape and sexual harassment allegations by students of the college. I think theres definitely room for improvement in the colleges dealings, but as DCLM already made clear, the school was being asked to provide a parallel court, which is not easy. [12] Construction began in 1992, and was completed in 1995. That bothers me as well. The other items linked ARE quoted and described in the article. But honestly what is Smith talking about when she refers to the only cafe in town?? When you have an educational institution; especially a residential one that does not have an explicit sexual assault policy on the books in 2010, its absolutely reasonable to criticize the institution and its actions. This whole story made me so sad, especially reading it as a Christendom graduate and now mother who is raising sons and daughters in this confused and fallen world. Are you saying that campus security police are supposed to be policing the town? I vehemently disagreed with their misogyny, but never was sexually harassed, assaulted, etc. It sounds from the way the witnesses say he behaved that this guy probably is a sociopath and I believe probably did rape her. That is no small feat. Through it, you will gain the communication and critical thinking skills necessary to refine and elevate your intellect and enable you to pursue your profession and personal vocation. Wonder how thats working on all those great secular and Catholic-in-name only colleges that dont have those stupid single-sex dorm rules and have open alcohol and drug use in the dorms and on campus. My condolences for all the victims. Simcha, Im not quite sure what any of the rape allegations have to do with Christendom College. Ya got me! My inclination is that this was rape and the man is guilty. Could more evidence have been gathered? The reporting alleges/implies that young women arent safe at Christendom, that the university has an ongoing culture of assault and harassment toward women which is accepted by the community, and that the University doesnt help women who have been raped. Protected: Podcast 51: the Grift of the Magi, Protected: Podcast #50: The Five Stages of Revenge, Podcast 49: Not trying to hurry you (FREE PODCAST! I am so sad you had to live through that. https://www.usnews.com/news/blogs/at-the-edge/2015/11/18/rape-on-college-campuses-nearly-1-in-6-freshmen-women-are-assaulted. But I also understand how difficult this whole situation becomes for Christendom, having no evidence whatsoever. After Adele did slap you, you allegedly said, If you slapped me really hard and it really hurt, I wouldnt want to kiss you. It is further alleged that on other occasions you went out of your way to volunteer with groups of friends that Adele had seduced you. Actually, if you read what the new sexual assault policy is, it is much more than Smith claims. It isnt Christendoms fault this happened they can only learn as fast as the culture encroaches..that young man should have kept his hands to himself period. It is endorsed by The Newman Guide to Choosing a Catholic College and has been characterized as a conservative Catholic liberal arts college. There is a feeling of disillusionment for many, even those who stay. But there were many inaccuracies about the school: we never had to get outfits approved for dates, you are allowed to sit next to each other, and we didnt have to wear skirts all the time. It does truly permeate the campus. The curriculum consists of three years of study in Theology, three years in Philosophy, two years in English Language and Literature, two years in Classical or Modern Language, two years in History, one year in Political Science and Economics, one year in Mathematics and Natural Science, and 4 years of Education for Life career preparation coursework. Rapists should be tarred and feathered (or worse). Umm okay? Ive told him three times not to. But current students and alumni say the school has a boys will be boys attitude which allows the male students to harass and grab at the women. Imply that what they did was nothing. 3) Reinforce this impression with nebulous allegations of serious problems in the current environment. It was the same with the guys open house, except theyd have TVs and video games. And then we blame schools that are actually making efforts to establish some social mores to help guide young people? Very interesting. Its not 50% excitement its 100% terror. Imply that there is a pattern and that the pattern is indicative of the current campus environment. What if anyone found out? [T]he alleged assault of Adele did not take place on campus. The rape in question occurred because two students of opposite sexes were alone together. After I finally rejected the Faith, I was intellectually under-equipped to handle the outside world; I've honestly learned more about the actual world (as opposed to the imaginary Catholic one) by browsing Reddit and the rest of the internet than I ever learned in my four years at Christendom. Ive been guessing and guessing whoever it is seems to still have his good reputation intact. I clearly understood in that moment that Christendom College did not care about the safety of its students. The young man left Christendom in Smiths senior year. Is that whats happening right now?'. It is beyond belief that the man has not ever been punished. In one way, Im glad I have this information. But thats not entirely relevent here. Christendom College University of Toronto-Regis College Experience Priest in Residence Christendom College Oct 2021 - Present1 year 2 months Assistant Professor Santa Clara University Sep. "[25], Over the years, the college has also received praise from political leaders in the United States. No matter what your belief now, or if you have no belief at all. They can work *with* local law enforcement, but thats as far as it goes, because theyre federal. I emerged with my virginity intact. Shes taken a lot of crap from that quarter and it would be a misuse of her great gift of writing to use it as payback. It was usually fairly evident who those people were and if you didnt want trouble, you stayed out of their circle. 2023 Christendom College. Her commentary is supported by analysis from the Pew Research Institute in 2021, which found 53% of Latinos ages 18 to 29 say they hear racist or racially insensitive comments or jokes about other . Ive always thought that would be delightful and I graduated in 2000 from Christendom. It wouldnt quite be in keeping with her recent essay about letting go of anger. After graduation, she went to a catholic high school that was run by nuns. I cant get into grad school with my GPA. Christendom College does not receive federal funding, and so is not subject to Title IX regulations, which would legally require it to respond to and remedy hostile educational environments. Discouraged, Smith hesitated, then eventually called law enforcement rangers and met with them at Shenandoah National Park. Tag: racism National Congress on the Word of God: A Two-Edged Sword. You are correct on what the report alleges and implies. Karl Petrick Assistant Director of Advancement Services Protected: Podcast #19: Parking meters, mixed greens, and other UNBEARABLE SCOURGES. "Critical race theory (CRT) asserts that America's legal framework is inherently racist and that race itself, instead of being biologically grounded and natural, is a socially constructed concept that is used by white people to further their economic and political interests at the expense of people of color," explains Dr. Denise Donohue, the This also means there is no publicly available data about sexual assaults or other crimes taking place on campus, as is required of Title IX schools. want more proof of sexual assualts? The College is actually small enough, and physically remote from the built-up town center, that it is more ignored than anything. As I said, virtue thrives in the light. And no, I'm not giving you any donations. While it is true that Cdom, as I understand it, expels people for far less, it is usually for things in which there is more evidence or for matters that are more in their jurisdiction. Sexual assault by a Catholic homeschooler happened to a person very close to me just recently here in FR. Grad school was a very supportive environment for me in a number of ways. This actually hurts good people doing their best to make the world a better place every day. Which of these rights do you want to see eliminated? As part of this commitment, the College undertakes to educate the student body about sexual harassment and assault. But when someone stated they were raped, you do not tell them oh come on, you gave in to the thrill more than the fear. The idea of being torn apart in court by someone with a law degree, and it being in the paper, was too much for me to imagine. Kind of makes you wonder why there are any rapes in the many (50?) And meanwhile, you get a certain thrill from seeing that now youve unleashed his passion and he DOES love you a la folie. The Churchs teaching on this, particularly Pope John Paul II really upholds a woman in her own right and this was taught quite clearly at Christendom. So this rape would not have occurred if the dorms were mixed gender? I am grateful to each woman who has come forward with her story. This is part of the problem: college kids are not children but adults with agency to make decisions for their life. . Christendom College is a four-year coeducational Roman Catholic Liberal Arts College with undergraduate and graduate programs offered in locations in Front Royal and Alexandria, Virginia, Donegal, Ireland, and Rome, Italy.
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